Love is complicated and confusing. The feng shui love tips found around the web is no different.
I’ve seen ones that suggest you do rituals, like writing something on a piece of paper and keeping it somewhere for 49 days. I’ve also seen ones that asks you turn on your bedroom lights a certain way every night for several consecutive nights.
Although I’ve witnessed and studied the power of intentions, those tips and suggestions do not belong in the realm of feng shui. (If you’re interested in the power of intention, I suggest you read “The Intention Experiment.” The book reveals how our thoughts generate its own energy, backed by research conducted at Princeton, MIT, and Stanford.)
Some of the tips you’re about to read is similar to the concept of clutter, which belongs to modern psychology and not classical feng shui. Nonetheless, I have listed them not just because feng shui experts included them as feng shui tips, but mostly because they actually worked for most people that I talked to.
Keep in mind that these feng shui tips can only get you so far. What’s important is that you make the effort to find love or improve your relationship. Don’t ever expect feng shui to do all the work for you.
So here are the feng shui love tips from around the web, along with a few of my thoughts and comments.
Feng Shui Bed for Love
1. Get a Good Solid Headboard
A good solid headboard is important for your sleep quality because it gives you a subtle sense of security. Scientific studies have concluded poor sleep quality can be detrimental to your mental and physical health, including a depleted sex drive. So it’s not just the headboard, any bedroom feng shui that helps improve sleep is a necessary foundation for improved romance in the bedroom.
2. Freshen Up Your Bedsheets and Linens
Some feng shui experts say that new bedsheets and linens can help freshen up your romantic relationship. Others tell you to use colors such as white, bright green, or pink to heat up your relationship and avoid red because it could burn up your relationship. Though I’ve never tried these, I personally think that the effects of colors on feng shui are limited, and these tips can only bring short-term results.
3. Place Your Bed Properly
In addition to not sleeping with your head under a window and other feng shui taboos, you should avoid placing your bed in a corner because you or your partner may feel trapped. In other words, this means that both sides of the bed should be easily accessible where you or your partner doesn’t have to climb over another body to get on and off the bed. Place your bed properly to prevent one person from getting the less desirable position. This way, getting out of bed will be less disruptive and conflicts regarding sleep can be completely avoided.
4. Remove Extra Pillows or Stuffed Animals
Though this is not exactly a feng shui tip, some consultants have included this as part of their feng shui advice. If your bed is filled with pillows or stuffed animals, it sends the message that you have no room for anyone else to join you.
Feng Shui Bedroom for Love
5. Colorize Your Walls and Window Treatments
The colors of bedroom walls and window treatments should complement each other to create a balanced flow of love and sexual energy. If possible, use a splash of pink because it represents love, joy, happiness, and romance. Similar to what I stated earlier, I personally think that the results of just using colors is short-lived.
6. Carefully Select Your Bedroom Art
Artworks have a profound impact on our emotions. Do not hang paintings that depict violence, sorrow, or religion (such as angels) in your bedroom because it can invoke strong emotions that’ll distract you from your sleep and bedroom romance. Instead, try to use artwork that symbolizes love, such as two lovers kissing each other, because they can influence your behavior through social proof. In other words, you’ll feel more comfortable connecting intimately when you see another couple doing the same.
7. Get Rid of the Television
Television is a distraction to bedroom romance and sleep. If the TV is on, your attention is given to the TV instead of your loved one that’s right beside you. It prevents you from making intimate connections or have meaningful conversations with your partner. Further, TV is an electronic device that belongs to the fire element and brings Yang energy, which is not the energy you want in your bedroom.
8. Get Rid of Work in Your Bedroom
Some feng shui experts suggest that you remove work-related furniture in your bedroom because it reminds you or your partner of work. Some experts go even further for the same reason, telling you not to bring laptops or even your smartphone to bed because of our constant need to check emails. When your mind is fixated on work, you are less likely to give your partner any kind of attention. Further, constantly being reminded about work is likely to create stress that’ll adversely affect bedroom romance.
9. Bedside Furniture should be Symmetrical
Like many other tips listed here, this tip is more of a modern feng shui approach. Furniture on both sides of the bed should be the same because it promotes feelings of equality and the notion of partnership. No one is having extra space on the nightstand, and there really is no better side of the bed. This seems to me that it’s really one less thing for a couple to fight about.
10. Declutter Out of Love
You should declutter not just your bedroom, but your whole house as well. Although decluttering is not part of classical feng shui, many feng shui experts still include this as part of a tip that’ll improve relationships and romance. Clutter is a stress factor that can affect us mentally, and when the stress boils over, patience and tolerance for your partner can decrease significantly which can lead to constant fights. Plus, having less clutter around the house prevents couples from confronting each other with statements such as “clean up your stuff!” It is one less thing for couples to fight over.
11. Remove Photographs of Friends and Family in Bedroom
Though this has more to do with modern psychology than classical feng shui, I think this is a good tip to follow. Having photographs with people’s faces, not just your friends and family, can adversely impact bedroom romance. This is because most of us are uncomfortable displaying affection in the public, and having photos in your room will sometimes feel like as if people are looking at you.
12. Get Rid of Mirrors Facing the Bed
Many experts have mentioned that mirror facing the bed tends to bring the energy of the third party into your intimate relationship. I’m not sure how this is, but I can imagine that this feng shui saying originated from accumulation of experiences. In any event, mirror facing the bed is just bad feng shui that can affect your sleep in various ways.
13. No Additional Rooms in Your Bedroom
By additional rooms, I mean an actual living space with sofa or even a bed (and not a walking closet) that’s divided by a sliding door or some kind of divider. Though this is rarely seen, some experts have claimed that an additional room invites infidelity into your relationship.
14. Increase Bedroom Privacy
This tip does not have much to do with classical feng shui but can help some individuals. Some people are just uncomfortable displaying affection publicly. But sometimes it’s not just the sight, it’s the sound as well. If your partner is more introverted, you can improve bedroom romance by closing the window or installing heavier doors to increase privacy that’ll shield not just sight but sound as well.
15. Remember the Yin of the Bedroom
Yin energy helps people relax. That’s why the bedroom should use dimmer lights, soft music, or colors that induces relaxation. As mentioned earlier, stress decreases bedroom romance. A bedroom with more Yin energies can help you and your partner relax, which will naturally open the doors for the both of you to connect intimately.
Feng Shui Bathroom
16. Beautify the Bathroom
Some suggest that the bathroom should be transformed with healing energy that gives off a sense of beauty and spa-like pampering energy. Others suggest to include beautiful heart-shaped decors, flowers, and artworks. I think these tips can definitely help with your relationship because it communicates love and care. However, I think this tip is not really related to classical feng shui.
17. Bathroom in the Love Area
The Southwest corner of your home is considered the love area, and bathrooms in the Southwest area is said to negatively affect your love relationships because bathrooms are notorious for its bad feng shui. To minimize its effects, experts have suggested to use Fire and Earth elements to strengthen that area because Southwest belongs to the Earth feng shui element. Also, don’t forget that good habits, such as closing the toilet lid and keeping the bathroom clean can help minimize a bathroom’s bad feng shui.
Feng Shui Items for Love
18. Use Flowers to Promote Love
Many have suggested that flowers can be used to promote love. Singles who wish to marry should display a vase of peonies in the living room. Just don’t put it in the bedroom because plants are generally not suitable for the bedroom. If placed correctly, flowers have the ability to bring “peach blossom luck” (more below), which is suitable for singles but NOT for married couples because it’ll invite other parties into your relationship.
19. Use Artworks that Depict Love
These artworks can range from paintings to other types of home décor. As mentioned earlier, they are most suitable for the bedroom and sometimes the bathroom. Artworks with a pair of Mandarin Ducks are the most popular, well known, and widely used traditional feng shui cure for love. I personally suggest that you pick the artwork that you have the most feel for.
20. Removing Objects from Previous Love
Some say that feng shui suggests that you remove objects from your previous relationships because it’ll help you move on. Though I don’t disagree with the tip, I don’t think this is related to classical feng shui. Other more credible tips ask you get rid of the bed and mattress from a previous relationship because you’ll be sleeping with the negative energy from your former lover.
21. Hang Mirrors and Crystals
If your bed is at the end of a long hallway or corridor, or is lined up with the front door, your romance could be negatively affected. If that’s your case, an expert suggested that you hang mirrors diagonally opposite of each other in the hallway, or suspend a small crystal sphere from a silver thread directly inside the door as cure.
22. Use Candles to Inspire Love
Candles have the ability to add sensuality to an environment, and red, pink, and multi-colored candles are said to be feng shui love cures. Candles have the ability to strengthen the fire element and conflicts with the water element, so be sure to use candles wisely according to the feng shui element of that area.
23. Place Happy Photos of You and Your Partner
If you’re married or in a relationship, you can place happy photos of you and your partner around the house. That includes the kitchen, hallways, or any high-traffic area. Though I don’t think this is feng shui related, I do agree that reminding yourselves of happy times together creates inner positive energy that’ll boost the intimacy between you and your partner.
24. Put Furniture Legs on Rugs
The idea behind this is that furniture should be arranged to support communication. So if you can put the front legs of all the living room sofa on a rug, people will tend to sit there to talk, thereby increasing the chances of an intimate connection.
Feng Shui Concepts Related to Love
25. Use Roosters to Cure Bad Romance
Relationships can be loving, toxic, or both. If you are (or were) in a bad relationship that is hard to end, one way is to use a small rooster figurine to help break off that relationship. To do so, place the rooster on a shelf that’s higher than the average human height with its beak pointed towards the front door.
26. Place Flowers in the Peach Blossom Luck Position
The Peach Blossom Luck is only suitable for those looking for love (not for those who are in a relationship), and its area in your home differ by the person’s animal sign. To activate your Peach Blossom Luck, the easiest way is to place fresh flowers in that area of your home. Below is a chart to help you find the direction of your Peach Blossom Luck.
27. Take Good Care of Your Love Area
The Southwest area of your home is your love area. It is the Earth element, and Earthly colors can promote tenderness in that area while strengthening the Earth element (especially needed if that area is missing or has limited space). You can also use objects related to Earth or Fire elements to activate the Earth element in that area.
27.5 Know Your Personal Lucky Areas
Here’s an extra tip. There are many other feng shui factors that influence the love and romance in your life, such as the location of your bedroom and how your personal Kua fits with your home. These are big concepts that cannot be communicated in just a few tips, but I just wanted you to know that they’re out there.
Feng Shui is Just ONE Solution
Even if you follow all these tips and received help from Feng Shui Masters, YOU still have to work on finding love or to improving your current relationship. Meaning, you still need to be attentive to your partner’s needs while making sure that both of you spend time together. You are the one that can make the difference, despite all the obstacles that come to you.
In other words, do not expect that after all the feng shui improvements, your true love will come knocking on your door or that your current partner will love you even if you never make the effort to spend time together. I hate to break it to you, but feng shui is NOT magic, nor is it a love spell. But I can tell you this: it’ll definitely help a great deal if you put in that effort. You’ll notice that your relationship will face less hurdles, and your love life will grow stronger each day like a tree that’s properly fed with clean air and water.
Using Feng Shui and some psychological principles can definitely help with seeking love or improving your relationship. If you truly want feng shui to assist you, I suggest that you seek professional help because following these tips can only get you so far.
Has any of these tips worked for you? What other feng shui love tips have worked for you? Please share your thoughts by commenting below!
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