You’ve probably read countless Feng Shui bedroom rules and tips. Have you ever noticed that you can’t implement all at the same time? Because sometimes one rule conflicts with another?
For instance, you probably know that the bedroom door shouldn’t be facing the bed. However, if you place it somewhere else, you will be sleeping in an unlucky area or direction based on your Kua number.
When that happens, which should you follow? Is one rule superior to the other?
Depending on the tip or rule you use, one DOES have priority over the other.
In this post, you will learn about some Feng Shui rules and tips about bed placement that can potentially conflict with one another, depending on your bedroom’s layout. Then, I will tell you which tip or rule takes priority over the other.
- Ideal Feng Shui Bed Placements Based on the Compass
- 5 Feng Shui Bed Placements to Avoid Based on Forms
- Which Bed Placement Rule Should You Prioritize?
- Word of Advice
Ideal Feng Shui Bed Placements Based on the Compass
Ideal Feng Shui bed placements differ by a person’s Kua number if we use Eight Mansions Feng Shui. (Please note that Eight Mansions is just one school of Feng Shui. I personally use Flying Stars Feng Shui and other schools instead of Eight Mansions. However, I am bringing the Eight Mansions practice as an example to illustrate a point.) To elaborate, your Kua number is determined by your sex and your birth year and will determine things like the ideal bed placement. If you don’t know your Kua number, you can use this calculator to find out.
After you find out your Kua, take note of your lucky and unlucky directions. You will be using them for your bed placement.
Next, use the floor plan of your bedroom and divide it according to the eight cardinal directions. It’s like cutting a pizza, illustrated in the image below:
The general rule is that your bed should be placed in your lucky or “auspicious” areas. For instance, a person with Kua number 8 should have the bed placed at the western section of the bedroom.
Although there are slight variations on ideal placements depending on the person’s Kua and gender, you should be fine just by following the general rule mentioned earlier.
5 Feng Shui Bed Placements to Avoid Based on Forms
Now that you know ideal bed placements, let me tell you where NOT to place your bed.
These are the rules, tips, and cures you probably know. These rules are the ones that are likely to conflict with the ideal bed placements as mentioned earlier.
1. Avoid Empty Space Between Head of Bed and Wall
You’ve probably heard this a thousand times: “the head of bed should be placed against a wall”.
The reasoning for this placement is for you to feel supported. It’s a feeling of security, similar to sitting with a wall behind your back.
Diagonal placements should be avoided since this forms a triangular empty space when viewed from above.
According to some experts, this creates dilemmas in relationships. You’ll find that you’ll be in a relationship where you don’t love your partner or vice versa. Or, you may be in a situation where you’re in love, but circumstances make it hard for the both of you to be together.
Cure: Place a heavy piece of furniture behind the head of your bed that mimics a wall. It gives you the feeling of support and makes you feel more secure when you’re asleep.
2. Avoid Door Facing the Bed Directly
You’ve probably also heard this a thousand times, and some of you may refer to this as the renowned “coffin position”. This term takes its name from the practice of how we carry the dead through open doors, either head or feet first.
The “coffin position” is when your feet face the door when you’re in bed.
But this applies to any position. Meaning, it’s not just sleeping with your feet facing the door. As long as the door faces the bed, your bed placement is not ideal in terms of Feng Shui. Placing your bed in line with the door puts you directly in the path of the energy that flows through the entryway, which can disrupt your sleep.
This rule also applies to any door, such as the restroom door (if your bedroom is a master bedroom).
The restroom is renowned for bad Feng Shui. It contains odors, humidity, and bacteria that can affect both your sleep and your health.
If your restroom door faces the bed, some experts say that it can attract love relationships that damage you. In other words, you’ll find yourself in scenarios where you tend to find the “wrong” partner.
Cure: The easy cure is to place a door curtain or simply keep your restroom door closed. You can also try hanging a mirror on the inside of the bathroom door, facing inwards, so that any negative energy is reflected back into it.
3. Avoid Placing Bed Under Beam
Many Feng Shui experts agree that a person should not sit or sleep under the beam. That’s because beams create a subconscious feeling of being suppressed.
The lower, bigger, or more protruding the beam is, the greater the Qi’s “pressure” it has on you. This feeling is similar to the feeling you get when you’re under a really low ceiling.
Though some people experience problems when they sleep under beams, I’ve noticed that this doesn’t apply to everyone. Some people (like myself) sleep just fine under beams. Some elders reasoned that physical strength and youth has a lot to do with it.
Cure: You can use a canopy bed with the top covered. Experts have said that the extra layer is said to block the beam’s Qi.
4. Avoid Head of Bed Under Window
I’ve written a whole post about why you shouldn’t sleep with your head under a window.
To summarize, it’s because the Qi entering through the window will disrupt your sleep. These Qi are mostly the smell, sound, and light that can come in through the window. To give you more context, these can range from animal movements, cigarette smell from your neighbors, and wind that can give you headaches. Putting yourself in the path of these energies can make it difficult to get a good night’s rest and give you a general sense of restlessness, so it’s best to move your bed away from this area.
Cure: You can use heavier window blinds, double-pane windows, or a tall and solid headboard.
5. Avoid Head on the Same Side of Door, Toilet, or Kitchen
Many of us know that the bed should be placed in the “command position”. Meaning, the door should be visible in your line of sight when you’re lying on your bed.
If that’s not possible, you should avoid placing the head of your bed against the same wall as the door. That’s because the sound, movement, and vibration from the opening and closing of the door will greatly impact how you rest.
This also makes sense from a practical point of view since there’s usually a walkway on the other side of the wall with the door. Human (or pet) movements along that walkway have the tendency to disrupt your sleep. Of course, this assumes that you share a room with someone or if you have other family members living with you.
The same goes with the toilet, where the flushing of the toilet will be exponentially louder. Other times, you may just be annoyed when you hear water flowing through the pipes.
As for the kitchen, some say that the fire energy from the kitchen stove can cause insomnia. Also, the noise of the refrigerator and other activities in the kitchen will be louder if your bed and kitchen share the same wall.
Cure: A strong solid headboard will do most of the job, as it’ll negate many of the sound coming from the other side of the wall.
Which Bed Placement Rule Should You Prioritize?
By now, some of you may have noticed this – placing the bed in an ideal position, based on compass, might place the bed in a bad position, based on Forms.
For instance, your lucky direction may be on the west, but placing your bed there means that the door would be facing the bed. Or, you might be struggling to choose between placing the bed under the window or facing the door.
Here are 3 scenarios to help you understand which bed placement rules to prioritize.
Scenario 1: Choosing Between Ideal Bed Placements and Choosing Which Placements to Avoid
Here’s the scenario: when you place your bed in an ideal position based on your Kua number, but you also end up positioning it in a location where you should avoid.
For instance, you want to place the bed on the east, but then you will lose your “command position” since the door is facing the bed.
If you really have to choose, you should give up your ideal bed placement and heed the bed placements to avoid. This is especially true if:
- The door is facing your bed
- The head of bed has no support
But it doesn’t always have to be this way.
If you apply the cures as mentioned earlier, you can definitely place your bed in your ideal position.
For instance, to place your bed in an ideal location, you may need both a room divider (for a door facing bed) and a strong solid headboard (because the head of bed shares the same wall with the toilet).
Just remember not to overdo it. Don’t go overboard just so you can place your bed in an ideal position. This is because you might be altering the Qi flow of the bedroom when you apply too many cures. You will inconvenience yourself, and your bedroom space will seem less spacious and less comfortable.
Scenario 2: Choosing Between Two Individual’s Ideal Position
This applies mostly to married couples that share the same bed.
Say, for instance, that your Kua number is 8. Your lucky areas are in the west. You share your bed with your partner, who’s Kua number is 1, with lucky areas in the East. Who’s Kua number should be used for ideal bed placement?
When this happens, you should consider using the Kua of the female. That’s because both the bedroom and the female belong to Yin (using the Yin Yang theory, where men belong to Yang). For this reason, the female’s Kua takes priority in bed placement.
For younger couples, placing the bed in favor of the female’s Kua can also help the female to conceive.
Scenario 3: When Bed is Placed in Both Lucky and Unlucky Areas
What happens when a bed takes up the areas in the north and northwest of the house? (Or north and northeast? South and southwest?) This is quite common if your bed takes up most of your bedroom space.
This is a concern because north is a lucky direction for people who have Kua numbers 1, 3, 4, 9, while northeast is the unlucky area for the same group of people. If you’re looking for something more unique and accurate than Kua numbers, you may want to consider using your Bazi for Feng Shui. Bazi essentially takes a deeper dive into your nature and maps out the milestones in your life based on your 4 Pillars.
In this case, the head of the bed takes priority. In other words, just make sure that the head of your bed is placed in your lucky area based on your Kua number.
Again, do not overdo this and force this bed placement. You still need to place the head of the bed against a wall and avoid having the door face the bed. Refer back to scenario #1 above.
Word of Advice
I’ve seen many people untrained in Feng Shui misinterpreting Feng Shui rules and sweating over things that are completely unnecessary. For instance, even if a door is facing the bed, in the coffin position, it is NOT as bad as one might think because there are other factors to consider.
Like I’ve always suggested, it’s always better to consult an expert than to do it yourself. The reason is that I’ve seen many people who follow simple Feng Shui tips and do more harm than good to themselves in the end.
Some bed placements to avoid take priority over the desired bed placement based on direction. For instance, you should choose to place the head of your bed against a wall, even if that means you’re placing it in your unlucky area based on your Kua number. In other instances, placing the bed in the female’s lucky area takes priority over their male counterpart.
As you can see, there are countless variations, conflicts, and cures for proper Feng Shui bed placement. That’s why you should consult a Feng Shui Expert instead of trying to apply Feng Shui yourself and you can browse and consult an expert of your choice here. The alternative to hiring an expert is to take courses and learn Feng Shui yourself.
(Side note: In my experience, the Eight Mansions Feng Shui practice mentioned in this article is a hit or miss thing. If you’re looking for a Classical Feng Shui practice that really brings results, you can use my bedroom Feng Shui consultation service.)
Also, bed placement is just one tiny aspect of Feng Shui. So shouldn’t be surprised if nothing much has changed when your bed placement follows the correct Feng Shui rules.
If you truly want Feng Shui to change your life, you need a comprehensive analysis of the surrounding area as well as the interior of the house. Again, this is where you will need help from a professional practitioner.
What other conflicts in Feng Shui bed placement have you experienced? Please share them by commenting below!